Are You in a Relationship with Psychopathy

This is not a test for diagnosing people as psychopaths. It is, rather, a test for you, if you are in a relationship that feels confusing, and unpleasant. If the person you are living or working with sends you conflicting vibes: ecstatic to be in this relationship, being put on a pedestal on one hand, and being thrown into the ditch on another.

Sometimes it helps victims of abuse to have a name for it. Sometimes it could just be that the other person is being him/herself, and you have your own unresolved psychological issues. Whatever your reason may be, if you are here to use this test, I hope it is insightful.

1.This person stands out with his/her charm. You are taken in by it, but it seems also superficial.

1-very true

3

5-not at all

2.This person displays him/herself in a grandiose manner. Shows off by means of wealth, looks, success.

1-very true

3

5-not at all

3.This person doesn’t like to be alone, attention seeking, often looking for an audience.

1-very true

3

5-not at all

4.This person has lied to you and other people on many occasions.

1-very true

3

5-not at all

5.When this person ever expresses concern /sadness, it is short and quick, if at all.

1-very true

3

5-not at all

6.This person has very little regard for the feelings for others, and is often cruel.

1-very true

3

5-not at all

7.You observe how this person has made use of and even exploited you an others.

1-very true

3

5-not at all

8.This person behaves as if rules does not apply to him/her.

1-very true

3

5-not at all

9.This person is very ambitious, comes up with incredible goals.

1-very true

3

5-not at all

10.This person is promiscuous.

1-very true

3

5-not at all

11.This person does things impulsively.

1-very true

3

5-not at all

12.When you are with this person, you feel like you are being controlled and manipulated.

1-very true

3

5-not at all

13.You wonder how this person can sleep at night doing the things he/she does — without remorse.

1-very true

3

5-not at all

14.Although this person is ambitious, he/she hardly puts in real effort, and avoids responsibility.

1-very true

3

5-not at all

15.This person is having difficulty holding down a long term relationship.

1-very true

3

5-not at all

16.This person has been arrested / in jail for crimes related to his/her current behavior.

1-very true

3

5-not at all

17.You have witnessed this person abuse another person /or yourself.

1-very true

3

5-not at all

18.This person controls the group/family and nobody dares to confront him/her.

1-very true

3

5-not at all

19.You have experienced this person’s open rage.

1-very true

3

5-not at all

20.This person has said some things that make you confused that you think you are crazy.

1-very true

3

5-not at all